There exists a theory that you become the average of the five people with whom you spend most of your time.
The more you associate with those people, the more they rub off on you and shape who you become.
Surround yourself with superheroes, and you find yourself being pulled to the top. Mingle too frequently with a crowd of underachievers and settlers, and you'll feel comfortable with just getting by.
Of course, you can still rise above the group of less ambitious, but you'll almost certainly face judgment and reproach--not to mention the Herculean effort you'll need to constantly swim upstream. Similarly, underachieving people find comfort in knowing that others have underachieved, too. It makes them feel less alone, and they can more easily justify their shortcomings through the comparison.
Coupled with the theory that you become the average of your five closest associates, the fact that mediocrity loves company can have disastrous consequences if you are not highly-selective about your inner circle.
If there is any aspect of your life that has room for improvement, be honest with yourself and take the following steps:
- Identify the five people with whom you spend most of your time
- Going one-by-one, determine how positively those people are influencing your life
- Schedule more time with your most positive influencers
- Be more judicious with the time that you give those who add less value to your life (and back away from anyone toxic)
- If your top five is lacking in positivity, identify others who elevate you or otherwise make you want to be better, and make an effort to spend more time with them
- Try spending more time with Tony Robbins, Tim Ferriss, and Sheryl Sandberg and acting on their advice There are a number of incredible authors, speakers, and podcasters who positively influence millions of people every day. If you cannot identify enough positive players in your life, consider spending more time with well-known cultivators of success.
Just like gravity, there is a constant power working to pull you down to average. It takes work and a fighting spirit to create and maintain success, but we all have the means and the power to rise above because we are here to make the most of our talents and opportunities.
Ensure that your closest associates are co-architects of your greatness, and make it a great week!